I am amazed by the power of naming.
Though I do not agree that the act of naming equates with greater authority, I have to admit I appreciate how sensitively
Adam named his female partner. Twice. Once in Genesis 2 and once in Genesis 3.
This is now bone of my
bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman’ for she was taken out
of man. Adam totally got it. He instantly recognized the wondrous creature
before him as sharing his humanity and solving his aloneness. And he fell in
love.
Then after the fall Adam named the woman a second time. Eve. The name means living. It’s as though he was defying the final curse – for dust you are and to dust you will return.
But I don’t believe it was defiance. It was hope. The first breath exhaled in
response to the consequences, the terrible curses unleashed by sin. Eve. Not “We’re sorry.” Not “Please
forgive us.” Just “Eve.” A woman’s name that embodied hope for the newly fallen world.
But ever since Genesis 3, women in general have struggled
with being named by others in ways that have nothing to do with a given name.
You can’t teach
because women are more easily deceived.
You can’t lead because
women are weak.
You’re not invited
because women are too distracting sexually.
You can’t question
because women want to domineer.
You can’t say anything
because women are too emotional.
How ironic that Eve was the “mother of all the living" yet
so many women in the church do not feel alive, at least not in the sense that Jesus intended. Instead of feeling like God's handiwork and free to do the good works prepared by God (Ephesians 2:10), many feel caged and unable to break out of gender
stereotypes, to find their place in the faith community and to shed shameful
names.
Carol Kuniholm commented on a previous
blog post in which I encouraged women to not silence their voices because
of theological intimidation by men. She points out that the lack of biblical
knowledge is not the only reason women are reticent to speak up. Carol identifies several other barriers:
In thinking about why I
sometimes find myself silent on the issue of women in the church, or on other
issues of importance, I find it has less to do with theology, or lack of
confidence, and more to do with the way women who don't fit the common mold so
quickly suffer personal attack. Even in secular politics, women who dare to
speak their mind find themselves accused of being strident, unfeminine,
"sluts," or worse. Women who have chosen the path of acquiescence are
often threatened by women who speak up, and use gossip as an avenue to force
conformity. Men who like to hear themselves talk can make life hard for those
who object to being constantly shut down or interrupted.
These are all attempts to name women in damaging ways, to
shame them into silence. These are violations of relationship within the family
of God. This is not Christ-like. This is not love.
So I encourage women to help each other reject these names,
live into your new name in Christ and combine your voice with other men and
women who believe in freedom and equality. Like Adam realized, I want you to
know you are not alone. So I say again…
TEACH! You bring much
needed wisdom and creative theological insight.
LEAD! You are ezer kenegdo – women of strength
called to partner alongside our brothers and fight the Enemy together.
BE PRESENT! Your
femininity is not responsible for keeping men from lusting.
CHALLENGE! You can
disagree with a gentle and quiet spirit and speak the truth in love.
SPEAK! Continue to be
vulnerable even if it makes others feel uncomfortable.
Sisters, you are daughters of Eve and your name is not
“deceived” but LIVING. Through you I believe there will be unleashed a fresh
movement of the Spirit in the Church because Christ is alive in you.